How is perfectionism holding us back?
Think about it, perfectionism is that subtle hesitation that puts a stop or a filter our truth.
MY TRUTH comes up to express, and there is a moment when I can make a decision to put a nice filter on it, put a "cool" spin on it, or make it something other than the messy, imperfect truth.
It’s what we choose to do in that split second that changes everything.
When we believe the negative thoughts in our head when they pop up, it kills our calm-fidence.
For example, when we go to share and the thoughts pop-up like, "WTF, that's way out of your league," "Someone else is WAY more expert than YOU on this topic..." That's hardly edited or pro enough..." "Nope, not until you perfect the _____."
These thoughts are totally NORMAL.
We ALL have them because our brains has a negative bias.
BELIEVing and attaching to these negative, comparison-driven thoughts is one of the reasons why perfectionists are so uptight.
Outside they are perfecting and polishing, on the inside, they are fighting an internal battle between themselves and their thoughts.
Believing these thoughts – of COURSE – is SO anxiety-inducing and totally clutters-up our calm, inner state.
But, perfectionists experience the GD negative thoughts so often, on repeat, they are so frequent, and so LOUDLY, they think, They must be true, right?
The thoughts FEEL like the Truth.
But I want all perfectionists to know, THESE thoughts are NOT True.
When a thought pops up – good or bad – 99% of the time it's mental vomit BS jargon.
WE get to decide to let the noise take over our day, OR let the crazy fade in the background.
I've found, the thoughts never go away, but once you start noticing them, and then labeling them as "thought, buh-bye" they do have the potential to fade, like soft music playing in the background, which is much more manageable!
Everyone once in a while, a real, loud jerk of a thought will pop up, but it's just so out-there, you just kind of laugh.
The ego will go to crazy extremes to prevent us from doing what we’re here to do.
We should ALL be on the lookout for the more subtle ways perfectionism prevents us from being our unfiltered selves, expressing our unfiltered truth, or tricks you to believing you are less valuable than anyone else. (TOTAL and utter BS.)
And if you'd like a friendly guide for taking off the mask and re-finding you REAL, unfiltered self in 2020, email me at natalie@herhabits.com.